I always love having something to do, so at times, it is difficult to tune out, be still and not do much! It's always a distraction when your iPhone screen lights up with calls, notifications, Whatsapp messages from your friends around the world, emails and so forth. Time to put down my iPhone, time to not focus on creating content, Instagramming, or Snapchatting much.
A little difficult for me to break that habit, because in my mind, I'm always thinking about my current and my next projects. Last year, when I was in Melbourne, I was even told to have a proper holiday, instead of thinking and doing work for my blog! I just can't help myself, because frankly I get quite excited!
But I know I will get there and not check my iPhone as much. While I was planning to take a trip to the beautiful hot spring in Whitianga, Coromandel, I reflected on a few lessons I've learned, more so lately. I've written them down as a reminder to myself, and so I don't forget these feelings, and I bet you're able to relate with some of my thoughts too.
Spending time with friends is the best time.
These past eight months have been the best eight months of my life, in some time! I found myself again. It almost felt like a rebirth and I felt like I could breathe again. The last four years, I had been busy scheduling time and activities around one person, which isn't always a bad thing, but it also means that sometimes, you forget spending that quality time with your friends. In a way, I'm so very thankful for these changing circumstances.
I have reconnected with my old friends, and I have also made many new friends. I've made it one of my priorities to catch up with them regularly. So far, so good. Lately, I've been lunching in the sun, having fun dinner dates with my girlfriends, road tripping, and like recently, hanging out at The Lost Spring ; New Zealand's luxurious Thermal Springs & Day Spa with one of my best friends, Steph. We connect on many levels and I love the wonderful feeling of friendship and warmth.
Knowing that I have such supportive friends make me feel happy and I know I can trust them and that they'd be there for me, no matter what.
Love yourself. Don't rush into a relationship.
I've been doing some readings around the topic of relationships lately, and I came across this quote which I really loved, "Despite how open, peaceful and loving you are, people can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves. This is the heart of clarity."
I love that quote because it basically means, no matter how incredible someone is, we are only capable of loving them as deeply as we have learned to love ourselves. In the past, I've always been a relationship type of girl, I was rarely single and always committed. As I'm now in my late twenties, I've allowed myself time to love and understand myself more. We need to look at the why's and how's of who we are, otherwise whatever type of love we do share will only end up being shallow.
Time and time again, and even more so recently, I've seen people rush into relationships and rebound. Perhaps they are scared to be lonely? Give yourself time to heal. I've enjoyed getting to know new people through my travels as well as, at the places I'm currently based in. Additionally, I have enjoyed being able to do the many things I wasn't able to do, while I was in a long-term relationship. With much sharing of the other aspects of my life on social media, I'm not particularly fond of talking/sharing about my private life on it, i.e. who I'm dating, in a relationship with and so forth.
I've taken up new projects, and I love that, I can be selfish with my time, without any guilt whatsoever! I've also started learning a new language; French. Once I've mastered that, I'd love to learn Spanish as I love learning about different cultures and languages.
Love yourself first and foremost. Because, in order to love deeply and be in the place to accept that once-in-a-lifetime love, we need to have healed from all of the times that we didn't receive that love, and from all the experiences that helped us learn who we are and what we want.
Life is about eating your favorite decadent desserts.
I'm going to admit this, I am guilty of often checking myself before I reach for a sweet treat. I'm not even ashamed to admit this, but I am scared of gaining unnecessary weight. Because when you look good, you feel good. Sigh. But, I have been reminding myself that as long as we eat healthy most of the time, and exercise regularly, enjoying a sweet treat from time to time, is just fine.
My weakness would be macarons. If you know me well, you'd know that I absolutely love them in beautiful baby pink Rose flavor. In New Zealand, my go-to for macarons are from J'aime Les Macarons . Absolutely fresh, delightful and quality at its finest. Bridget who owns that business, is also a fellow lawyer and I admire her business acumen. Delivering from Christchurch, her beautiful macarons arrived safely at my place in Auckland, the very next day! Now, I've got my eyes on the Winter 2017 collection.
I also enjoyed a mango margarita by the pool. C'est parfait!
You don't always have to be right.
Whether we'd like to admit it or not, it's in our nature to always want to be right! Lately, I've been really good and am able to acknowledge the differences in opinions and I'm not ashamed to admit if I've done or said something wrong. This is a result of surrounding myself with positive and uplifting people. Sometimes, it's best to just say that you're sorry and move on. If one of you is having a bad day, who is going to step up and make it better?
Previously, I was in a toxic relationship where the person would never admit his mistakes and always placed the blame on me, his ego always needed a stroke. My advice to those in that position? Leave immediately. That type of person is not worth a second of your time!
And, recently, I am reminded just how amazing the feeling of not always needing or wanting to be right is. I met someone who is quite chilled and is lovely to be around, they aren't concerned at all about being right all the time. They just wanted to ensure that they don't intentionally upset the ones that they care about. And, in turn, you wanted to ensure that they are being looked after too. Ahh, bless.
Although it was a tiring drive from Auckland to Coromandel; and back (we didn't stay the night), it was a beautiful afternoon well-spent. I really adored the menu as there was an impressive selection of food and drinks. We indulged in a seafood platter which was truly divine. How cute are my Moët ice goblets? Thank you to the team at The Lost Spring for looking after us so well throughout the shoot, and thank you to my team for the combined effort in collating the photos together. I can't wait to come back, next time with a date as this place is perfect if you are looking for a luxurious, romantic and private date idea!
Check your phone less, reapply your favorite shade of lipstick (bright red for me) and take a break from real life, even if it's only for a few hours. Celebrate your moment, let's all take more time to switch off, let loose and embrace every minute and let's live for the moment. What are some of the lessons you have learned recently?